Happy New Year

Bring it on 2017

Bring it on! 2017 – A Time to Rewrite the Story of Your Life

It’s that time of year where people are making all kinds of resolutions, which can set us up for disappointment. Instead, let’s begin to understand how important the stories are that we tell ourselves. We are the stories we tell, which can help us understand ourselves. There is a way to rewrite the story of your life.

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God - Religion

How do I Find God?

There are six paths to God – I was driving my twin daughters to school on Wednesday. I find the rides to and from school with my daughters enthralling to say the least. I find that these rides are when they converse the most with me. I am so blessed to have that time with them.

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Christmas and Holidays

Holiday Craziness – Why We need it

When I was a child, we were allowed to open up one present on Christmas Eve. We knew the present was a formal dress up outfit to wear to church for Christmas Eve midnight mass. We would sit as a family and tell stories and share memories as we waited until the clock struck church time. After church, my mother would have the Christmas ham ready for ham sandwiches on rye bread.

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Art

One Piece of Art Changed our Family Car Rides

How One Piece of Art Changed our Family Car Rides and Even my Daughter’s Grades

As my daughter steps out of the car for school, I see her clamoring around to find her flute. She shines a smile at me as she informs me of her next performance. She is currently enrolled in her junior high school’s choir, band, and theater program. Without it, I know her school experience would be very different. She loves school. The music program is her biggest reason for that enjoyment. During difficult state budget cutbacks, I get angry when there is constant chatter about cutting musical programs in the public schools.

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Coming Together After Election

Trump is our new President of the United States of America. I admit that I was stunned as I watched the election unfold. Many of my clients were emotionally distraught with the upcoming election. Some were losing sleep over it and getting in arguments with their spouses. Now that the election is over, I see emotions are intensifying. Today, a client wanted to march in the next Trump protest.

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Five Ways to be Happier

Are we doomed to gloom if our genetic predisposition is towards melancholy? As a mental health therapist, I would prefer not to tell my clients that they are just doomed to gloom due to their genes.

Research shows that external factors have very little impact on our overall happiness. Our beauty, income, education and even health do not influence our levels of happiness. A major catastrophic bad event also has very little impact on our overall happiness.

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Love Builders

Are You Too Busy for the Delights of Marriage

“How could he cheat on me,” said the distraught-middle aged woman who sat in my office early Friday morning. “I thought everything was good between us. He said that he’s been miserable for years and he finally found someone who makes him feel loved and appreciated. I am his wife. I am the one who has taken care of him for all these years. I have cooked for him, cleaned for him, and taken care of our children. I really thought everything was just fine between us…..”

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Another Summer of Motherhood is Gone

I just saw my grandson today. He’s 15 months old and recently got his very first haircut. He looks like a young boy way too soon. I swear just five minutes ago, he was just a newborn with eyes wide open looking at the world for the very first time. He’s walking now and quietly says “what’s that” when he sees something new. I just can’t get enough time with him.

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