People often say, “I love him but I am not in love with him. “ The difference between being in love with him and loving him is that you desire him. When you love him, it is caring and wanting good things for him. When you are in love with him, you desire him. In a long-term marriage or relationship, some sexual boredom is inevitable. Long-term sexual boredom is not. Here are things that can interfere in our sexual intimacy.
Bring it on! 2017 – A Time to Rewrite the Story of Your Life
It’s that time of year where people are making all kinds of resolutions, which can set us up for disappointment. Instead, let’s begin to understand how important the stories are that we tell ourselves. We are the stories we tell, which can help us understand ourselves. There is a way to rewrite the story of your life.
There are six paths to God – I was driving my twin daughters to school on Wednesday. I find the rides to and from school with my daughters enthralling to say the least. I find that these rides are when they converse the most with me. I am so blessed to have that time with them.
When I was a child, we were allowed to open up one present on Christmas Eve. We knew the present was a formal dress up outfit to wear to church for Christmas Eve midnight mass. We would sit as a family and tell stories and share memories as we waited until the clock struck church time. After church, my mother would have the Christmas ham ready for ham sandwiches on rye bread.
How One Piece of Art Changed our Family Car Rides and Even my Daughter’s Grades
As my daughter steps out of the car for school, I see her clamoring around to find her flute. She shines a smile at me as she informs me of her next performance. She is currently enrolled in her junior high school’s choir, band, and theater program. Without it, I know her school experience would be very different. She loves school. The music program is her biggest reason for that enjoyment. During difficult state budget cutbacks, I get angry when there is constant chatter about cutting musical programs in the public schools.
“Chestnuts roasting on an open fire. Jack Frost nipping at your nose and yuletide carols being sung by a fire and folks dressed up like Eskimos” by Nat King Cole is my favorite Christmas song. We start the Christmas music right after Halloween and the magic of the season begins.
Trump is our new President of the United States of America. I admit that I was stunned as I watched the election unfold. Many of my clients were emotionally distraught with the upcoming election. Some were losing sleep over it and getting in arguments with their spouses. Now that the election is over, I see emotions are intensifying. Today, a client wanted to march in the next Trump protest.
Are we doomed to gloom if our genetic predisposition is towards melancholy? As a mental health therapist, I would prefer not to tell my clients that they are just doomed to gloom due to their genes.
Research shows that external factors have very little impact on our overall happiness. Our beauty, income, education and even health do not influence our levels of happiness. A major catastrophic bad event also has very little impact on our overall happiness.
“How could he cheat on me,” said the distraught-middle aged woman who sat in my office early Friday morning. “I thought everything was good between us. He said that he’s been miserable for years and he finally found someone who makes him feel loved and appreciated. I am his wife. I am the one who has taken care of him for all these years. I have cooked for him, cleaned for him, and taken care of our children. I really thought everything was just fine between us…..”