Las Vegas – Trauma and Treasures

For those involved in the horrific event in Las Vegas, I send all of you a loving virtual hug. There are no right words to calm you from the aftermath of the storm.  The dust is settling. Unfortunately, the emotional trauma is still ruminating in all of those involved. Fortunately, there are those finding the little treasures as the dust settles. Three victims have walked through my counseling door.

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Romantic Obsession

Romantic Obsession; What Makes a Stalker?

In 7th grade, the girls and I were swooning over a teacher, Mr. Signorino. We had a romantic obsession with Mr. Signorino. We even had a song about him. The song was an adaptation from the last verse of the song from West Side Story, Gee Officer Krupke. The parody of that song we created went like this, “Mr. Signorino, we’re down on our knees, because no one wants a teacher with a social disease. Gee Mr. Signorino what are we to do. Mr. Signorino, we love you.”  Are you romantically obsessed?

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Money – Human Doing or Human Being

My daughter at 14 years of age asked me, “Why is it that people don’t want to tell other people how much money they make? I would be happy to tell them how much money I make. Why do people care so much what other people think about how much money they make? Besides, I’m going to be a millionaire and people will love me because I’m a millionaire and if I’m not a millionaire, they will love me because I’m awesome.” My daughter summed it up well. Do we want to be a human doing or a human being?

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Broken Heart – I see beauty in it

A call from a friend alerted me. She informed me that my boyfriend was dancing with another woman at our end of the year high school dance. A fight between my boyfriend and me ensued in the front lawn of the high school. Due to that fight, our relationship ended right then and there. I had my first broken heart.  I never felt such pain in my life. At 18 years of age, I was sure that I would never fall in love again. My life was over. I couldn’t sleep and couldn’t eat. What was happening to me?

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Independence Day – Cowboys Taught Me How to Let Freedom Ring

Yesterday, I went to the rodeo in Prescott AZ. It was my very first rodeo. For the 4th of July weekend, there couldn’t be anything more American than a rodeo. Right? Go Independence Day and Let Freedom Ring!

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Ignore the Real World

Your idea just isn’t realistic. You need to live in the real world. You hear it all the time when you present a new idea to someone.  The real world doesn’t sound like a place where I want to live. Other people can be a real downer to your excitement of a new idea.

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Sexual boredom is not inevitable

People often say, “I love him but I am not in love with him. “ The difference between being in love with him and loving him is that you desire him. When you love him, it is caring and wanting good things for him. When you are in love with him, you desire him. In a long-term marriage or relationship, some sexual boredom is inevitable. Long-term sexual boredom is not.  Here are things that can interfere in our sexual intimacy.

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