Dreams – Ten Reasons You Won’t Try
All kinds of things can get in the way of our dreams. We have all sorts of distractions during the day, which are nothing more than doubt. Doubt causes us to find distractions. Dread is something else that slows us down. Dread is nothing more than the mind being lazy. Goal attainment theory says that there are ten reasons you won’t reach try.
Ten Reasons You Won’t Try
- Future Identity– You need to be able to see it, feel it, and imagine it. You need to be constantly experiencing it. Put yourself in your role. Dream it and visualize it. You need to visualize the good and the bad. You want to talk and visualize yourself into the future.
- Intrinsic Value– Intrinsic Value is your internal reward.You need to enjoy what you do in order to achieve the dream. Does your dream offer you enough internal reward?
- Utility Value – If you go for that dream, you need to have tangible returns. You need to ask yourself how much are you willing to risk. Will the rewards be worth your investment of time and money?
- Opportunity Cost– You may not have enough time for that dream. Opportunity cost is the loss of potential gain from other alternatives when one alternative is chosen.
- Delay Time– Do you think it will take a long time to get it? We are short-term thinkers. If it takes a long time we may quit. The longer you delay, the less work you will do right now. Take the time to get your dream and cut it in half. Then, what you do on Monday to get your dream.
- Personal Control– If you don’t have the power, you won’t do it. A high personal control and you will do it.
- Social Support– If you don’t have the social support, you won’t try your dream. Your spouse is only one person. Not everybody has to believe in you. It is your dream. You need to own your dream. Most people won’t understand or support you because they have their own dream. Your spouse doesn’t have to support you in your dream. People don’t believe in you and that’s okay. You don’t want to kick them out of your dream. You have to believe and you will eventually have social support.
- Bandwidth Belief– If you believe that you don’t have the bandwidth (full plate) to pursue your dream, you don’t do it.
- Resources– If you don’t have the time and equipment, you won’t be able to do it. You don’t need the resources and go out and find a way.
- Health– If you don’t have the energy, you won’t go for it.
90 Years Old – Her First Big Job
Iris Apfel said, “Retirement is worse than death.” Her first big job in beauty and fashion came when she was at the tender age of ninety.
She calls herself an accidental icon. At the age of 90, she developed a limited edition collection of make-up for MAC cosmetics for the winter of 2011.
When her husband died in 2015, she decided that she didn’t want to just stay at home and cry. Her work took on a new significance. Her husband’s death pushed her into a new career. She says that she has never worked harder in her life.
Getting old isn’t for those faint at heart. Your body starts to fall apart and aches and pains are a part of life. So what? Work and dreams are good for all of us. When we no longer dream, we die. When we no longer work, we die.
Iris says, “Having a sense of wonder, a sense of humor, and a sense of curiosity – these are my tonic. ….I hold the self-proclaimed record for being the World’s Oldest Living Teenager and I intend to keep it that way.”
Iris reminds all of us that it’s never too late to go for it. Regret is only for those faint at heart who don’t go for it!