How do we deal with discouragement? You are trying to achieve a dream. You are really passionate about your project. Things aren’t going well. Someone makes fun of you. You are feeling down on yourself. Something fails and you are in this place where you are so discouraged that you just sit and power binge on Netflix all day. There are four things that can help you deal with discouragement.
Follow your passion and you will never have to work another day in your life. Go after your dreams and money will follow. We are bombarded with this notion on a regular basis. I hate to burst your bubble. Practicalities in a career choice are known as survival. Dreams coming to fruition are more of a rare phenomenon.
A strong gust of wind blows in the forest. Which tree is left standing? The tree that bends. The tree gets relaxed and bends. It lets the wind just flow over it. That’s not the same thing as being a door mat and letting someone walk all over you. Surviving a difficult person is like a tree allowing the wind to just blow over it.
What’s going on here? According to an article with ABC News, it reports that women’s college basketball is better than men’s college basketball. It goes on to say that all the best female players of college are playing college basketball and only a fraction of the best male players are. In women’s basketball, there is far more talent actually on the court in a typical game, season or championship tournament. Which is to say, more of the best female college-age players are playing college basketball.
Breaking up is hard to do. When I was younger, we didn’t have the capabilities to break up via text messaging or via email. Most of us would like to have the respect and dignity of a face to face breakup. Your lover doesn’t return your phone call, your email or your text messages. You’ve not only been dumped, you’ve been ghosted.
So many times in my counseling office, I will hear people who have destructive family members say to me, “If I don’t reach out to them and they die, I will regret not trying to make amends.” People want to give bad people a pass if they are sick and dying. I have never heard anyone regret not having a destructive person in his/her life. However, these are the things you will regret.
Do you remember singing telegrams? I had a boyfriend who had just moved to Chicago and I was still back in South Bend, IN. It was Valentine’s Day. I wanted something unique. Looking through catalogues and radio ads (no internet back then), I had such a fun scavenger hunt. Love is magical. I stumbled upon a brand new concept, singing telegrams. On Valentine’s Day, I ordered up a singing telegram for my lover. Gift giving is a sweet tradition of Valentine’s Day.