Intelligent people do not tolerate the following:
Smart people do not have to please everybody. It’s important to care about friends and family. We need to have compassion but to put yourself in a burn out phase because your focus is that you don’t want them to be mad at you is not a good idea. People have survived being disappointed over and over again.
In India it is appropriate to use the Namaste gesture when greeting colleagues. Bring both hands together and center in front of your chest. Make a small motion to bow while saying Namaste. Namaste is recognizing we are all equal.The divine in me bows to the divine in you. A professor once told our counseling class, “You Are Your Patient.” Namaste.
A person’s character can be found in defining moments, which are so packed with meaning that they shimmer through time. These moments are peak experiences. A peak experience will define a person’s moral character, which can instantly expand awareness and alter one’s sense of self.
It was my first session back with my client after about a year or so. She had completed her divorce and was upset that she just had a fight with her ex-husband. She could feel her blood pressure rising in my office as she spoke of her fight and was clearly suffering over her reaction. What is the root cause of suffering?
All kinds of things can get in the way of our dreams. We have all sorts of distractions during the day, which are nothing more than doubt. Doubt causes us to find distractions. Dread is something else that slows us down. Dread is nothing more than the mind being lazy. Goal attainment theory says that there are ten reasons you won’t reach try.
When my clients are frustrated, I hear, “I am doomed and don’t have a way out.” We are not doomed as long as we have options. The truth is you may not be aware of your options. If you don’t know your options, you have no options. Informed options leads to better decisions.